Ten Steps to a Healthy Gay Relationship....

I recently read this article and found it to very on target....relationships are hard, gay relationships are often even more difficult due to a myriad of issues that heterosexual couples don't often encounter.  How much time together is  enough time?  What do you do when your partner wont communicate? How do you tell someone that you feel left out of their life a lot?  All sorts of issues arise and must be dealt with if a relationship is to survive!




Relationships are at the core of our lives.

Relating to others can easily be a mixed bag of excitement, fear, anticipation, elation, struggle, closeness, dread, intimacy and loneliness. Relationships are dynamic and ever-changing.
In a positive relationship, both partners feel valued, loved and nurtured. To get the most out of your relationship, consider the following tips on being a great partner:
  1. Develop a sense of trust - that is feeling that you can both be seen, heard, understood and accepted.
  2. Recognise that physical closeness is only one expression of intimacy. Intimacy can be verbal (e.g. telling your partner why you love them or things that you love about them), and it can also be expressed by doing special things for your partner or generally helping out with daily living tasks.
  3. Acknowledge each other’s need to be autonomous and to make your own decisions sometimes.
  4. Create a safe and open place, where you can both express problems, doubts, fears and weaknesses without fear of rejection or punishment.
  5. Be willing to communicate. This often includes sharing feelings, needs and wants. Note: Listening to your partners problems does not necessarily mean you are responsible for solving them.
  6. Be open to negotiate around your differences with respect and generosity. You are not going to get your own way all the time.
  7. Aim to be aware of personal issues you bring to the relationship (sometimes called ‘baggage’), and take responsibility for these. Also be aware of the expectations you may place on others and assess how realistic they are.
  8. Regular time alone gives you space to recharge and rebalance. This will allow you to give more in your relationship in the long-run. Time together and making each other a priority is important as well, because it shows that you feel that the other person is an important part of your life.
  9. Maintain and build a supportive network of friends outside the relationship. No single relationship will meet every need.
  10. Develop the capacity to not take yourself and everything else too seriously.

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